Tuesday's Tip-Faith and Love

I usually have some kind of tip to keep your house organized or a way to keep your bodies healthier, but my heart wasn't in that today. I felt the Lord leading me a different way. If you look forward to my Tuesday's Tip I hope I don't disappoint you with this one, but if you read on, you will know why I posted it. My Tuesday's tip is to hug and love on your children as much as possible. Something that sounds so simple, but often one that's hard to act out. I am speaking from experience. My girls sometimes get my second best because I am so busy doing. I'm sure some of you can relate. I have been very thankful for my children the last few days. Maybe it's the holiday's, but this time of year I am all to aware of people who are hurting. (The recent comments on my last blog have made my heart ache. Thank you to those that posted. I read them and I am praying for you.) I always thought of Christmas as a joyous time of the year. A time filled with laughter, love, Christmas music, good food and of course the birth of our Lord and Savior. It didn't hit me until we lost our daughter Zoe two months prior to Christmas in 2004. I remember it so vividly. I didn't want to put up a tree or buy gifts. I just didn't care. Nothing mattered without her in it. I was supposed to be enjoying that Christmas hugely pregnant with just 2 months until her arrival. Instead I was sad, depressed and filled with anxiety. I wondered if I would ever be able to get pregnant again. My husband was incredible during this time. I knew he was in pain too, but he remained strong for me. That year I was given the most meaningful gift I have ever been given and I wanted to share it with you. At the time my husband was drawing a comic strip called Kick Irrational. It was about a husband named Kick and his wife Kricket. We were The Irrational's. Brian wrote about things that happened in our lives and until that time they were mostly upbeat and humorous about the life of a married couple. This time his comic was much different and he wrote it just for me. (It was later published in a few different publications and we got emails from people that were touched by it's honesty). I opened it and bawled like a baby. You can see why.

A closer look so you can read the comic. I love my sweet and talented husband. I am so blessed.
The leaf in the picture came from our October Glory maple tree that we planted in our backyard during the memorial service for her. It's extra special to me now because the tree didn't survive. I never would have imagined how he would allow me to experience that tree again. (you can read the story here) He never ceases to amaze me.

Back to my tip. Today when Brooklyn woke up early from her nap I was not too thrilled. I needed to get some stuff done with the book and I wanted her to go back to bed. That's when it hit me. I can tell her she needs to go back to bed, she already had an hour nap so I knew that wouldn't work, or I can choose to put my stuff on hold and hang with her. So we crawled into bed and I asked her about her day. We just sat and talked. It was priceless. I was convicted that I need to do more of that with my girls. They grow up so fast and I don't want to miss any of it. You see I got another miracle that Christmas back in 2004. Just 4 days after, on the 29th, I found out I was pregnant with another baby. That miracle is sitting next to me playing on daddy's computer. Her name is Brooklyn Sophia and she is 4 years old. My sorrow turned into joy. I never would have imagined how my story would have unfolded, but God knew. He knew every detail and He knows every detail of yours. For those of you who are waiting on a baby, know that God knows your pain. The tears you shed are part of the bigger story, your story, and it will be revealed. Have faith that you will be a mother. I know it's hard. Some days you may not have any faith and that's ok. God knows that, but I pray there will be more days that you do. I believe He will give you the desires of your heart. I have seen it countless times in the women that I have had the opportunity to minister to in my support group that I lead. I can tell you story after story. Stories that are nothing more than miraculous and I pray for that story for you.

If your miracle has already come, hug on those sweet children tonight. Spend sometime just being present with them. We never get those moments back. Praise God for the blessings He has given you and pray for those that are still waiting for theirs.


Natalie.Rob.Branson said...

Your best tip yet. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts with me today. I know your book will touch many!

The Lane Family said...

That was a great tip!! I think sometimes we forget that our kids grow-up way to fast and that someday we will have all of the alone time in the world :)

I found you through Kelly's Corner. I LOVE the fact you are doing this book. 6 years ago when our life begin to change forever it would have been nice to have something like this out there.

Here is the quick review. Got pregnant on our own with a little girl, Jenni Lynn, found out at 24 weeks she had a very rare genetic disease had her her at 26 weeks lived a few moments and returned to our God.

Used clomid and got pregnant again all was well at a 6 week and 8 week ultrasound, at the 12 week no heartbeat. Had a D&C woke-up from it to find my mother had been killed in a car accident while coming to be with us.

7 month of trying told fallopian tubes had been destroyed by an infection after D&C only choice In-Vitro. Did in-vitro got pregnant with twins, all was well until 14 weeks and they could not control my bleeding and I lost them. Spent a few days in the hospital and recieved two blood transfusions.

Used frozen embryo's got pregnant with our son. The pregnancy was a very rocky road and almost lost him multiple times. After eight weeks of complete bed rest and in and out of hospital, we had an emergency c-section and he joined our family.

When our son was 20 months we decided to try one more time. We used our frzen blastocysts and got pregnant with twins. At 10 weeks I was put on bedrest and every pregnancy complication you could get we had. We spent many days and weeks in the hospital and at 35 weeks we had them in another emergency c-section. We found out that one of our daughters has some genetic issues and that has provided some additional challenges but they have blessed our lives in so many way.

I am glad that you have taken the challenge to write this beautiful book for so many of us out there who have, are or will struggle with bringing their baby into this world.

Thank you,


P.S. If you would like to check out our blog just e-mail me at wendelton@gmail.com. We went private after a few not so good things happened.

Lori Eaker said...

Wow, I am just blown away. Your story (I am so sorry for the loss of your baby), the Lane family story (I am so sorry for the loss of your babies and your mother). I needed the comfort tonight of women that have "traveled the road". We lost a baby at 8 weeks in Dec 08 and thought we were "safe" this past fall/winter of 09 on the next pregnancy. However, at the 12 week appt (12/29/09)we found out our baby had died. I was 12 weeks 2 days and the baby was 12 weeks 1 day. Since I am of "advanced maternal age" (aka old!!) they sent the baby for genetic testing and to determine gender. We found out our baby was normal and was a sweet little boy. I now watch my two boys (6 and 3) play and I just sit and ponder what the third boy would have been like. Sometimes I can almost feel his soft hair as I picture rubbing my chin against his sweet, little head and can almost smell his fresh out of the bath skin. I know I will hold him (and his sibling) someday... Thanks ladies for sharing your precious stories. It is hard but with God's amazing and tender care we make it thru...

PS Linda Maus sent me here and I am so glad she did...

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